6 things that will change your life in 1 year! :D

1 year!! 1 whole year!!! That’s too long Vedant! Why can’t you tell me something to change my life by end of the day?

Most of us have developed this mentality of getting things quickly… and this is not our fault… this is the change that technology has provided us as a gift! You want food or grocery, get it delivered within 30 minutes. You want to read a book, download it and read it on your phone, without moving out to the book store. No need to go to the market to pay bills, everything can be done with your phone… so why wait?

There is a very famous old saying – “Sabr ka fal meetha hota hai” . This is literally true! What is the similarity between a house(building) and a tree? They both have strong foundation and both take enough time to make this foundation much stronger!

Since we are talking about changing your life, a little amount of time invested on yourself should not be a concern for you, specially when these things will not consume any extra time, these are just the ways to improve your life while doing things THE RIGHT WAY!

FIRST – STOP COMPLAINING AND APPRECIATE HOW LUCKY YOU ARE EVERY DAY!

I have written about this in my book “Single Rule For Success” too. You need to stop complaining about each and every thing going wrong in your life and start appreciating for the good things. This is psychologically proven that if you think positive and ignore the negative things in your life (at least try for sometime), you will tend to perform more positive tasks, and the result will be that after a few days, you will feel so positive and empowered!

It is not compulsory to be a part of negative chit chats (bit*hing behind the back) with colleagues. You can talk about productive stuff too! Trust me, nothing bad will happen to you if you talk good about people! :p

SECOND – EMBRACE LONELINESS AND REINVENT YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS!

Vedant Bro! This is deep! I don’t want to be “Devdas” and left alone, neither I want to go to Himalayas and meditate… I am happy with my friends and parties!

Embracing loneliness doesn’t mean that you have to cut off yourself from the world forever. But you need to give time to yourself too! Your inner self is a different thing and your body is a different thing, and you need to give at least 15 minutes to both the things daily! Is 15 minutes too much to ask for yourself?

Go for a walk alone in the greens… listen your favourite music… write down ideas that come in your mind and think about them… do these things however stupid you find it to be…but try these at least once! You will experience a new you! You will get to know more about yourself… I have a complete chapter in my book “Single Rule For Success” named “Know Yourself”. It is beginning of knowing the world!

THIRD – SAY GOODBYE TO NEGATIVE PEOPLE

This one might be tough for starters, but soon you will realize in your life that this is one of the best magic mantras! Imagine a river, a fresh water river… flowing in between beautiful mountains and dense jungles. This river was so good that people use to drink water directly from it and it was so powerful that it use to break rocks and form it’s own new paths!

But then people started to put garbage in this river… a lot of garbage. This river slowed down due to so much garbage, and started to die out. The fish and the plants inside died and the water started smelling. Few people understood that the river can not take enough garbage and they need to clean it to revive it again and they were successful in their task!

Now imagine that this river is you and the garbage is negative people in your life. They not only put negative thought in you but drain your energy and positivity soon leaves you. The only difference is that there was someone to clean the river, but here you need to do the work your self!

FOURTH – PUT ONE SKILL YOU WANT TO CULTIVATE AND PUT ALL YOUR EFFORT INTO IT

This is what I do for all my projects! I put my heart into it and you know what’s the best part? Even if the results are not good, I feel so relaxed and happy that I tried my best. You will never be left with the feeling that you could have done better, and you also learn so much during this! You learn a lot of new things and you get to know more about your limit too!

Do something! Try something good and productive! This is the best time and no one know about future, so don’t wait for it my friend! Get Set GO!

FIVE – COMMIT TO THE GOALS YOU SET AND NEVER LOOK BACK

I’m not talking about your new year resolution! I don’t know who started this! Why do you need to wait for 1st of January to start something new and follow it for the whole year! Why not today? Why not just now?

People face commitment issues everywhere nowadays, be it office or relationships. Ask yourself a question… What was the last time when you set a timeline to do something productive? Did you finish it? If yes, how was your experience? No need to comment below… just ask yourself and you will have all the answers! If you haven’t experienced any thing yet, set timelines to do things an try finishing them within the limit.

You will save a lot of time, you will become more productive and once it is in your routine, success is not far away from you! Start from small things… set limit for small tasks.. finish them within time and then move towards bigger ones!

SIX – FAIL FORWARD : LEARN FROM EVERY MISTAKE YOU MAKE

Last but not the least…fail forward! I have always wondered why school still teaches boring history to us. I am sure you would also have thought the same. One of the reasons is that future generations should know about the mistakes that our forefathers did and what were its consequences. History books helps us in not making these mistakes again!

You know whats the most amazing thing we get in free?? Learning from other’s mistake… and what’s the costliest thing? Not learning from our own mistake and performing the same task in the same way and failing again!

You need to learn from other’s mistakes and from your own mistakes and failures too! This is failing forward! You need not to be upset if you fail, instead you need to learn and give a more powerful performance in your next try! Remember – No one can make you fall down, if you never stop trying again and get up with more positivity! This is the beauty of life!

I hope that at least a single soul transforms after reading this article!

Live your life, don’t just breathe!

All the best!

“Depression” is much more than feeling sad…

1 in 4 of us will fight a mental health problem in any given year. That person can be your family member, your friend, any person you cross on the street or YOU!

” In India, the prevalence of depressive disorders is estimated to be 4.5 per cent of the total population. But despite being so common, the signs of depression are not well recognized in the country. In a cross-sectional study conducted on 916 college students, only about a third (29.04 per cent) of the group clearly identified depression.” – Business Standard

‘I understand’, ‘I’m listening’ and ‘I’m here for you.’ These lines can “not only changes lives, but save them.” Few simple things that a person needs when he/she is depressed is someone to listen, support and love.

Signs of Depression:

Depression is more than just being sad or lonely. To identify whether you or someone else needs help, it is important to have a better understanding of the signs of depression. Feeling of futility, hopelessness, worthlessness, self-hate, and inappropriate levels of guilt. A depressed person loses perspective of life. The person loses interest in the things he/she loved and enjoyed doing earlier.

Anxiety
Sleep Problems
Weight Changes
Uncontrolled emotions
Suicidal tendencies

How to come out of depression?

Talk to someone. If you don’t have anyone who is willing to listen to you, write whatever is in your mind. Don’t keep things in your mind, all the stuff in there needs to get out! So, either talk to someone or write it down! Still, if you want to talk to someone and no ones there, you may write out to me about your problems at kvedantk@gmail.com. I promise, you will feel better.
Exercise! It helps a lot. This is biologically proven. I am sure you can take out at least 5 minutes from 24 hours for exercise. Start with 5 minutes and then increase the time slowly.
Sleep well and Eat good food. I am not pushing you to sleep for 8 hours, but sleep as much as your body requires, it maybe 5 to 9 hours. I keep a track of my food intake using HealthifyMe app, it is proving out to be a really helpful app in monitoring food and water intake.
Laugh with friends and family or even alone! Just enjoy the moments and let your smile turn into a laugh whenever necessary. Don’t control your happiness. If you do not have anyone to laugh with, watch comedy shows, movies and enjoy “your” time with “yourself”.

Share your depression stories and how you are dealing with it, or how you came out of depression. This will be really helpful for others!

All the best!

The Art of Getting What You Want!

I asked multiple people that what are those two things, which matter the most to them in life, the two things which help them sustain themselves, the two things which they want to be perfect… and most common answer was Relationships and Career.

Now the second question was that, what do they do to make these two most important things perfect? Do they focus more on it? Do they do something extra on daily basis just so that these two things can improve? Do they put their heart into it? What was the last thing which they did with full passion and dedication? What was the last thing which they did only for themselves and the thing which they love to do? The answers were really depressing!

Did you asked these questions to yourself? If not, do it right now! How was it? If you are doing something in addition to your daily activity, that’s GREAT! If you are not doing anything, how do you think will these things improve? Magic never happens from thin air, the illusion behind the magic takes hours of practice!

The most important things which I feel in each and every phase of life are – Confidence, Content and Communication!

Whether you are a student, an employee, an employer, home maker, unemployed or retired person, these things will help you in each and every stage of life! Trust me, because this is something which I have learnt from my own experience and which I have told to many people and seen the positive change in them!

The best part about my 3C theory is that it works even if you have only 1 of the C strong enough. You do not need to have all the three Cs to be successful, you can work on the other two Cs and make it stronger with time.

Talking about Relationships, be it parent-child, siblings, couples, teacher – students, employer – employee, or any other relationship in this world. The most important thing is Communication. The worst relationships gain trust and live happily once they start communicating with each other. Communication has build many bridges in this world! Try for yourself, talk to the people around you, your family members, your friends, colleagues or even your pets! Talking to pets has reduced depression in many cases!

Talking about Career, all the three Cs are required here! You need to be confident in whatever you do. Do not be shy about things which do not matter at workplace, your work should define you, and not anything else! Content is another very important thing here! You should know what you are doing and get yourself updated on regular basis. This helps in getting to greater heights! Communication part you must have already understood from above paragraph!

Do let me know the things, which hold you back from being successful in your work, we will work out together! All the best and I wish you achieve whatever you wish for!

Life after Death

It was in and around me
The darkness had covered me like a shield
Like an armor protecting it’s knight
Like a body protecting it’s soul

I was freely flowing
Everywhere I wanted to fly… like Air
Like cold water… which can carve mountains
Like hot fire… which can burn down anything in it’s path

People said, you have been freed from everything…
Is it so? Does only your body keeps you attached?
Or is it the world? Or is it your name tag?

I have lived with this name for last 73 years,
and will remain immortal for generations to come…
But will they actually remember me after a few weeks?

Let me tell you how I ended up where I’m right now…
There’s no white light and no doors to heaven,
I was sleeping, and suddenly stopped breathing,
People around me thought I’m still sleeping, and they were partially correct,
because I was in a sleep, but it was the one, from which no one gets up.

I was still there for some time, inside my body…
Because I didn’t want to leave.
There are so many attachments, how can you leave everything abruptly?
And then there was a phase change that I don’t remember, when I was outside the body,
Seeing myself lying on the bed, in the most peaceful sleep.

This is the first time when I’ve seen myself like this,
and it is the last one too!
People who use to call me by my name,
are now calling me a “body”,
so they do know that I was not just the “body”,
it was just a suit for me to survive in this world.

I was Hindu by religion, and so my body will be burnt…
I would prefer not to see this, and try to leave this world!

There ain’t another soul here, unlike the last world I was in…
I’m all alone, and I will be until my time comes…
Time for rebirth, time to time travel back to the world where I came from.

I’ll be losing all the memories and undergo hibernation,
Then one day I’ll suddenly see the light again!

It’s really painful… this life and death…
First you got nothing, then your are attached to everything,
and then you are brought far once again…
and the cycle goes on!

Thanks for reading the part two of my poetry – Life and Death! If you haven’t read it yet, click this link and I’m sure you will love it –
www.vedantkhandelwal.in/life-and-death/

How to be Financially Responsible?

Savings!! The most horrifying word among most of the people! This is horrifying because people try a lot to do savings, they plan a lot, but at the end of the month, you have nothing to save!

This blog is going to be a bit different than most of my blogs, but this is a part of self-help. Most of the people suffer from depression only because they didn’t plan well and sudden shake in life, shook them financially! Everyone has a plan to buy a car, a home or something which requires a lot of money but the problem is that not everyone has a good salary or family – provided bank balance. Few things which might help you in being financially stable as well as enjoy your life:

1. How often do you check your bank statements? You should do this very often, specially for credit/debit cards. Try to do this in the coming weekend, and you will be surprised to notice the wastage that you have done! We spend a lot at things where we should not really spend money, and when you see all this after six months, you realize and then you have a control over the useless expenses! I was paying for one of my websites which I am not using from last one year now, and by cancelling the subscription, I saved around Rs. 6000!

2. I have saved around Rs. 2000 by bringing home-made lunch to office. I am not asking you to cut your expenses. Have fun, watch movies, but save wherever you have the option! Our process of savings is WRONG! When our account is credited with salary, we cut out all the expenses, and then whatever is remaining (if any) , we consider that as savings. This is wrong! If you have plans to buy something, you need to make savings as your priority. First expense from your salary should be towards your savings account! Make a separate account just for savings and do not make any expenses from that. Trust me! You’ll be happy to see the savings that you did in just one year!

3. Why do you have a credit card if you do not have enough monthly income for all your expenses? Please call the bank and tell them to block your credit card! I know people who do not have sufficient incomes for their daily expenses, yet they have a credit card, and top of all, they have an I-phone which they have bought on EMI using this credit card! Why to show-off when you are the only person who will have to suffer? Use debit card wherever possible! You need to have common sense and sense of control about things you buy.

4. Don’t just buy stuff as it is on SALE with heavy DISCOUNTS! Sale these days are not seasonal, it is always there, either on online platforms like Amazon or Flipkart or even on retail outlets! Please buy what you need, and not what you are getting in lesser selling price! I recently imported MI Band 3 and had to pay import duty charge, and unfortunately it was available at a lesser price within India in just a month’s time from the purchase! You should utilize discounts, coupons and codes only when you need to purchase the stuff, and not purchase the stuff whenever you have discounts, coupons or codes available!

5. Invest! Please don’t tell me that you haven’t heard about SIP! MUTUAL FUNDS SAHI HAI is all over the country these days, be it TV ads, YouTube ads, FM or Delhi metro ads. It is one of the best ways to save because you can reach your goal step by step and as SIP is done in a different account, you can have fun and make the expenses from your salary account without keeping in mind that you have to save at the end of the month.

These five steps should surely be helpful in bringing your savings in line! Please do let me know if any of the above steps helped you out, or even if you have some other ways too, to do savings! Stay financially stable, stay happy!