1 year!! 1 whole year!!! That’s too long Vedant! Why can’t you tell me something to change my life by end of the day?
Most of us have developed this mentality of getting things quickly… and this is not our fault… this is the change that technology has provided us as a gift! You want food or grocery, get it delivered within 30 minutes. You want to read a book, download it and read it on your phone, without moving out to the book store. No need to go to the market to pay bills, everything can be done with your phone… so why wait?
There is a very famous old saying – “Sabr ka fal meetha hota hai” . This is literally true! What is the similarity between a house(building) and a tree? They both have strong foundation and both take enough time to make this foundation much stronger!
Since we are talking about changing your life, a little amount of time invested on yourself should not be a concern for you, specially when these things will not consume any extra time, these are just the ways to improve your life while doing things THE RIGHT WAY!
FIRST – STOP COMPLAINING AND APPRECIATE HOW LUCKY YOU ARE EVERY DAY!
I have written about this in my book “Single Rule For Success” too. You need to stop complaining about each and every thing going wrong in your life and start appreciating for the good things. This is psychologically proven that if you think positive and ignore the negative things in your life (at least try for sometime), you will tend to perform more positive tasks, and the result will be that after a few days, you will feel so positive and empowered!
It is not compulsory to be a part of negative chit chats (bit*hing behind the back) with colleagues. You can talk about productive stuff too! Trust me, nothing bad will happen to you if you talk good about people! :p
SECOND – EMBRACE LONELINESS AND REINVENT YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS!
Vedant Bro! This is deep! I don’t want to be “Devdas” and left alone, neither I want to go to Himalayas and meditate… I am happy with my friends and parties!
Embracing loneliness doesn’t mean that you have to cut off yourself from the world forever. But you need to give time to yourself too! Your inner self is a different thing and your body is a different thing, and you need to give at least 15 minutes to both the things daily! Is 15 minutes too much to ask for yourself?
Go for a walk alone in the greens… listen your favourite music… write down ideas that come in your mind and think about them… do these things however stupid you find it to be…but try these at least once! You will experience a new you! You will get to know more about yourself… I have a complete chapter in my book “Single Rule For Success” named “Know Yourself”. It is beginning of knowing the world!
THIRD – SAY GOODBYE TO NEGATIVE PEOPLE
This one might be tough for starters, but soon you will realize in your life that this is one of the best magic mantras! Imagine a river, a fresh water river… flowing in between beautiful mountains and dense jungles. This river was so good that people use to drink water directly from it and it was so powerful that it use to break rocks and form it’s own new paths!
But then people started to put garbage in this river… a lot of garbage. This river slowed down due to so much garbage, and started to die out. The fish and the plants inside died and the water started smelling. Few people understood that the river can not take enough garbage and they need to clean it to revive it again and they were successful in their task!
Now imagine that this river is you and the garbage is negative people in your life. They not only put negative thought in you but drain your energy and positivity soon leaves you. The only difference is that there was someone to clean the river, but here you need to do the work your self!
FOURTH – PUT ONE SKILL YOU WANT TO CULTIVATE AND PUT ALL YOUR EFFORT INTO IT
This is what I do for all my projects! I put my heart into it and you know what’s the best part? Even if the results are not good, I feel so relaxed and happy that I tried my best. You will never be left with the feeling that you could have done better, and you also learn so much during this! You learn a lot of new things and you get to know more about your limit too!
Do something! Try something good and productive! This is the best time and no one know about future, so don’t wait for it my friend! Get Set GO!
FIVE – COMMIT TO THE GOALS YOU SET AND NEVER LOOK BACK
I’m not talking about your new year resolution! I don’t know who started this! Why do you need to wait for 1st of January to start something new and follow it for the whole year! Why not today? Why not just now?
People face commitment issues everywhere nowadays, be it office or relationships. Ask yourself a question… What was the last time when you set a timeline to do something productive? Did you finish it? If yes, how was your experience? No need to comment below… just ask yourself and you will have all the answers! If you haven’t experienced any thing yet, set timelines to do things an try finishing them within the limit.
You will save a lot of time, you will become more productive and once it is in your routine, success is not far away from you! Start from small things… set limit for small tasks.. finish them within time and then move towards bigger ones!
SIX – FAIL FORWARD : LEARN FROM EVERY MISTAKE YOU MAKE
Last but not the least…fail forward! I have always wondered why school still teaches boring history to us. I am sure you would also have thought the same. One of the reasons is that future generations should know about the mistakes that our forefathers did and what were its consequences. History books helps us in not making these mistakes again!
You know whats the most amazing thing we get in free?? Learning from other’s mistake… and what’s the costliest thing? Not learning from our own mistake and performing the same task in the same way and failing again!
You need to learn from other’s mistakes and from your own mistakes and failures too! This is failing forward! You need not to be upset if you fail, instead you need to learn and give a more powerful performance in your next try! Remember – No one can make you fall down, if you never stop trying again and get up with more positivity! This is the beauty of life!
I hope that at least a single soul transforms after reading this article!
Live your life, don’t just breathe!
All the best!